THE RE-MAKING OF MARRIAGE

Marriage in the 21st Century: A Beautiful Disaster or a Missed Opportunity?

Marriage today is like buying a brand-new spaceship… and then refusing to learn how to fly it.

Everyone loves the idea of the ride — the photo ops, the titles, the validation — but almost no one bothers to understand the deep cosmic piloting required for real human partnership.

The Illusion We Were Sold:

Marriage is supposed to be the magical endpoint where love locks itself into eternity, right?

Wrong.

Marriage isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of what should be a lifelong dance of growth, change, witnessing, dying, and rebirthing — not a “settle down” trap.

But what are we left with in reality?

Contracts, not connection.

Possession, not partnership.

Ego investments, not soul investments.

Women are often groomed (yes, groomed) to believe that once they snag a man, he becomes a project — a little home improvement plan with legs.

She owns him, manages him, “fixes” him — but God forbid she ever lets him outgrow her projections.

Meanwhile, men — poor things — have been raised on a steady diet of “freedom means escape,” so even when they choose a partner, they secretly resent the mirror she’s holding up to their soul’s arrested development.

Instead of presence, you get performance. Instead of intimacy, you get invisible rage.

Result?

Passive-aggressive resentment in every room.

Silent betrayals.

Growth strangled before it can even sprout.

The Ultimate Truth?

Marriage isn’t a contract to stay the same person you were on your wedding day.

It’s an agreement to witness each other’s deaths and rebirths — repeatedly.

To let your partner outgrow the version of them you once loved.

To love the essence, not the costume.

But because nobody taught us this, marriage today often becomes a silent form of spiritual abuse.

Not from malice, but from ignorance.

When you try to freeze-frame another human being — when you try to own their growth, dictate their timing, or weaponize their evolution against them — you’re no longer in love.

You’re in control.

And when a man refuses to be present because his ego can’t handle the reflection, or when a woman manipulates because her fear of abandonment is bigger than her faith in love — both become jailers instead of lovers.

In a truly awakened marriage:

• Growth is non-negotiable.

• Presence is the currency.

• Death of old versions is celebrated, not mourned.

• Love is not owned. It’s witnessed.

Until then, most modern marriages are just two ghosts haunting the ruins of who they were too afraid to become.

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Mic drop.

Guru out.